The state of happiness, like
everything we experience, is a choice. It also, like everything else, requires
our attention in order to be initiated and then maintained. Please note, that
we are not talking here about your emotional response to the external circumstances.
The joy, sadness, anger or frustration you usually feel while reacting to
people or situations – speak only of the state of your perception. Depending on your perception, you react
and experience your life, yourself and the world around you in a particular
way.
Let’s concentrate on another layer
of your experience, which may or may not be affected by your perception, or the
level of your consciousness. And, we will call it the “state of being”.
You have probably noticed that there
are people in the world whose happy state of being defies any logic, any
reasoning we’ve been used to. Those people remain happy no matter what the
circumstances. Some of them are poor, uneducated, even illiterate. Some of them
lead regular lives, have regular jobs, go through similar difficulties, deal
with similar problems as the rest of our society. Some are richer, perhaps
famous, some are truly well off. Some of them may be starving as we speak,
somewhere in the depths of Africa. No matter what their backgrounds, and no
matter what their circumstances, those people have one thing in common:
happiness. It seems to be their natural state of being. We often think of such
people as the lucky ones. We tend to say that they are “just born that way”.
Here is good news for you: you too
were born that way. Everyone of us has been born that way. Every single human
being is born equipped with natural acceptance, curiosity and joy of living.
The state of happiness is our natural birthright.
What happens then that changes all
of that? Why can some of us maintain the natural happiness, while others
cannot?
The first thing that probably comes
to your mind right now is to find the answer in the actual life experience
those people are going through. You would automatically think that they either
haven’t experienced enough hardship in their lives or that, for whatever
reason, the hardship they experienced was not big enough to truly affect their
state of being.
However, many of those people have
lived through tragedies, life and death situations, oppression, abuse, anything
you can imagine. Yet, nothing they have experienced left a truly significant
mark on their state of being. They always have been, and always will be, happy
people. And, it's not because they are not sensitive enough, or they don’t care
enough, or they are dissociated from their life experience. They are happy
because, knowingly or not, they found the simple truth about human
conditioning. We feel in a particular way, because we've conditioned ourselves
that way.
There is an interesting
characteristic to the human brain. It easily gets used to particular types of
chemicals being released while we are experiencing certain types of emotions.
The brain then gets hooked on those chemicals, and wants to feed on them, again
and again. You might think of your brain as being addicted to those chemicals
because they help it to re-create the same feelings all over. And so, the brain
creates neuro-paths for the chemicals it is used to. Always hungry for more,
the brain wants you to create circumstances in your life in which you will
produce more of the same chemicals. Your addictive brain does not care whether
you are happy with those circumstances or not, it just wants to get its feed.
The good news is, that when you stop
experiencing certain type of emotions, there is no further need for the related
chemicals, and so the neuro-paths wither away. The brain will create new paths,
to accommodate new chemicals, since whatever state you keep repeating, becomes
the new habit for your brain. You can literary train your brain to feed on any
chemical you want. And so, you can train your brain to be addicted to joy,
happiness, sadness, anger, bitterness, misery – anything of your choice.
All you need to do is to focus your
thoughts on images, memories, ideas that make you feel in a particular way, and
then keep repeating the procedure for about six weeks. It will give enough time
for your brain to get rid of the old neuro-paths and create new ones. You can,
indeed, fake the emotions for your brain to get used to them, in order to feel
them later for real.
The first step on your road to
happiness is to get clear about your old wounds and painful memories. You have
been used to perpetuating your thoughts around them. You have defined yourself
and created your state of being based on those old memories. While your life
goes forward, you have been stuck in the past. Remember, the past is only an
idea in your Mind. It does not exist anywhere else. It is time to admit that
and realize that you have been carrying old and heavy luggage filled with stuff
that you don’t need anymore. You need to get rid of that luggage, leave behind
the junk that is cluttering your space. Only then will you be able to free
yourself from the old conditioning.
To learn more about the easy method
of reprogramming please stay tuned for Johanna Kern’s upcoming book “The Keeper
& The Chamber of 7 Powers”.
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