Are you reluctant to tell others about
your achievements, feeling some level of guilt or shame because your friends or
co-workers haven’t had the same success? Do you avoid or procrastinate on big
projects, especially if they could lead to recognition? Do you compromise your
own agenda or goals so that it wouldn’t cause any problems or conflicts in your
team, family or organization? Do you convince yourself that you are not good
enough to reach for your dreams? Do you believe that even if you succeeded you
won’t be able to maintain your success and eventually will fail anyway? Yep,
you might have an unconscious fear of success. It is rooted in your imprinted
belief that success will bring you sorrow. You might believe that success
alienates one from their family, because of working longer hours, or being
asked for favors and money. You might be afraid that you will be criticized
more when you are “higher up”, and that your friends or family will react to
you with jealousy, cynicism, and that you might lose your loved ones. Or you
simply might be afraid that upon accomplishing your goals, you will intensely
regret that you didn't act sooner. Whatever reason hides behind your fear of
success – it is effectively sabotaging your happiness. Do you actually think
that your family or friends are happier because you haven’t achieved your
success yet? Do you think that it is better to be unhappy in an unhappy crowd,
instead of proving to others that everything is possible, and if you can
succeed they could do it too? Ask yourself similar questions, bringing to the
surface each of the issues that may subconsciously sabotage your life. Answer
them truthfully on a piece of paper – compare pros and cons. You’ll know what
to do next. You are smart enough to kid yourself about the reason for not
reaching for your success. Now you can admit to yourself how absolutely
wonderful it would be to follow your Heart, love your life and share your
success with those you love. Good luck!
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