The first step on your road to happiness is to get clear about what weighs you down. You have been used to perpetuating your thoughts around old hardship or painful circumstances. You have defined yourself and created your state of being based on those old memories. While your life goes forward, you have been stuck in the past. Remember, the past is only an idea in your Mind. It does not exist anywhere else. Over the next while pay attention to your thoughts and stop yourself from perpetuating any negative feelings. Whenever you notice a negative thought taking over, use one of the following simple methods:
-- The “Stop!” mind technique: shout loudly in your Mind “Stop!” whenever a negative thought is coming.
-- The “Elastic Band” method. Just put an elastic band on your wrist for a week, and snap it firmly any time you feel negative thoughts coming. It helps! These methods are very effective as they are based on the Pavlov’s “conditioned reflex”. They will help you to decrease, or even completely eliminate negative thinking. Have fun! J