Life does not just happen. Drifting, sleeping and dozing through life, on the other hand, does just happen - when we function on automatic pilot. Life requires full speed of all your engines and no looking back. You have to make ALL the choices AND follow them. From how you are going to dress, to what you are going to hold sacred. From how you behave, to how you feel... Saying that, please understand, that I am not attempting to tell you what is wrong or what is correct. It all depends on how one views themselves and the world around them. Who the person is, and what are their deepest beliefs. Some perceive the world as duality, some see it as one, some still need to decide what side they are on.